How to tend an orchid

A met a man in Moore’s Square park on Saturday.  Moore’s Square is the park where all the “homeless” people hang out.  His name is Eden.  He is originally from Bosnia.  He moved to Raleigh a few weeks ago after his money ran out in High Point.  Before High Point, he lived in South Dakota, (I believe that's what he said) then he heard there were more employment opportunities in High Point.  So much for that.

Eden, in what he referred to as his former life in Bosnia worked with orchids.  In our brief conversation, he tells me he could bring just about any orchid back to life.  “It depends” he says in his east European accent (an accent I have missed hearing since studying at Bossey).  He continues saying, “If it is under watered, it is fine, over watered – I cannot save.  No one can save.”  I shake my head as though I understand the intricacies of orchid plants. Of course overwatering is bad.

Truth is, I have an orchid plant.  It sits on what is known as the coffee bar in my kitchen next to the window.  It was beautiful when my partner, Doug, first got it for me, but now, it's a stick.  I have heard they are a difficult flower to cultivate.  I have also heard orchids will eventually bloom again if you are patient.  It’s been sitting there, flowerless, for about four months.  What Eden shares is of great interest to me.  I ask him – “So how should one care for an orchid?”

He shared the following:

1)   No one tells you this, but you should always repot an orchid plant when you get it.  It needs a new pot and new soil.
2)   Don’t over water.

3)   Water from the roots – not the top. 

Let us see what happens

He also shares that Sunday is the best day to water an orchid, stating that you water the roots of the plant before you go to church.  While you are at church, let the plant sit in the sink so the excess water drains out and when you get home, put the plant back.  I could imagine generations of Bosnian families watering their delicate orchids in this manner.  All of their orchids with beautiful buds due to the rhythm of their Sabbath watering and the prayers they received while their tenders are at worship. 

I thanked Eden for his time and help.  I immediately went home to repot my orchid carefully pulling away the old dried up soil.  Though it was a lifeless stick up top, I was happy to see life in the roots. I carefully watered the roots and placed it into fresh soil.  With all this TLC I feel like I should name my orchid.  Perhaps Eden is a fitting name.  I am not sure if it will bloom, but it looks happier all ready.  Sometimes there is a great deal of life in our roots, all we need is new soil, new surroundings, and a little patience.  

I wait with anticipation to see if both Eden’s live into their namesake. 

A country based on Christian values....

I was outside on my front porch yesterday hanging the 3 flower baskets I had just purchased.  I wanted the house to look pretty for the upcoming July 4^th festivities.  While struggling to get the “S” hook twisted in the 100 year old wood I notice our next door neighbors’ teenage boys throwing things into a van.  It’s clear they are angry as they mumble things under their voice and pace on the front porch. 

roots of that 40,000 pound tree

I’ve seen twins Kevin and Tevon grow up over the last 5 years. They are good kids, hard working; Kevin is on the football team.  They live with their aunt and uncle who have taken care of them since their mom died of a drug overdose when they were babies.  Doug and I know them as Tina and Johnny, they know them as mom and dad.   The boys are kind and now at 18, they are making plans for what is next in life. 

Our relationship changed with them after the 2011 tornado in Raleigh when a 40,000-pound tree fell on our front porch.  The boys, wanting to help us in our distress, collected $19.22 for us – we were

The $19.22

 moved to tears knowing that we had far more resources than they did.  The money is still in my top drawer as a reminder to me of this deep, compassionate and radical act of generosity.

I hear Kevin throw one last item in the truck before saying “man, I’m done with this.”  As he is walks in my direction, I ask him if everything is ok and if he needs to talk.  I slowly climb off the railing and meet him on our stoop.  He then shares that they have to move.  Due to “the sequesters” they can no longer afford the rent. 

I was dumfounded.  Shocked that we had no idea.  Saddened that good our neighbors are moving.  I asked him where they were moving.

Kevin shares that they are not sure.  They had a house they could afford but due to the lead paint could not move in.  (There is a strict list of regulations housing must abide by in order to apply housing subsidies)  My heart sank.  He continues saying that his mom is looking up hotels in the mean time.  They are without a home.

At this point I’m on the verge of crying. I know they don’t have the money for a long-term hotel stay - who would?  I know that their family will be added to a long list of others in the same predicament.  I know there is not enough houses for those who need it.  I know what thwarted transition does to people and to a family.  I have seen it first hand in my work, first working for Children Special Services in Tennessee, a program to connect children with special needs to medical resources (do to funding cuts CSS is now a shell of what it once was) and now in my work with Love Wins Ministries, an organization that serves those experiencing homeless. 

As I have learned economic despondency is a series of losses:  loss of home, loss of pride, loss of possessions, loss of pets, loss of access to bathrooms, loss of access to resources, loss of a washer and dryer, loss of simplicity, and ultimately loss of dignity…

I give Kevin and Tevon my cell number.  I tell them that they are always welcome to our home.  I give Kevin a big hug and he gives me a big hug back.   He continues his walk. 

As I make my way back up to my porch, I now feel my three flower baskets are excessive, an overcompensation to make up for the ugliness in the world. 

 

I come inside.  Earlier in the day, I posted on Facebook, a picture of former President Jimmy Carter with a quote: “If you don’t want your tax dollars to help the poor, then STOP saying you want a country based on Christian values, because you don’t.”  There are handfuls of "likes" and "shares" and two comments.  It is the comments that break my heart. 

Comment 1: Christian value is that the Church should help the poor so the government doesn’t have to.  Lazy does not equal poor. If the government helps them, the government does not give the glory to our Father, it takes all the glory for itself.

Comment 2: Our government enables the poor.

I realize my friends who posted these comments are more than likely separated from the poor.  Their comments simplify the issues, devalue the individuals and their circumstances, they assume the poor are lazy and they ultimately forget that those who are struggling to make ends meat are real human beings with children and families that will be impacted. 

I am well aware of the complexities of government assistance.  I know that while there are some who take advantage, most truly need it.   Allow me to rat out my own uncle who bitches about the poor taking advantage of such handouts while he has been collecting unemployment for over a year while working and making additional money on the side.  The reason many are poor is because of structures perpetuated by capitalism, the government, racism, and broken systems.

While my friend in comment 1 believes the church should be the sole institution helping the poor, such a reality is ridiculous, because most churches are not willing to engage in the real foundational issues that create “the poor”.  What comes to mind is the story of saving the babies down river instead of going up river to find out why the babies are there in the first place!

There are many churches that do good work in helping those in need but lets face it, most don’t.  Most hand out Easter baskets filled with chocolate and stuffed animals or food once a week.  Such work has more to do with the churchgoer’s ego than it does helping the poor.  The good Christian pats themselves on the back, proud of their service.  There is nothing glorious about this. (There are exceptions – and those who participate in such work – you know who you are!) 

When considering Jesus’ ministry, Jesus did what was most relational.  Sometimes this meant physically or spiritually healing, sometimes feeding, but most of the time it meant making a statement against the status quo, the rich or the government of the day.  The work of relationship is time-consuming and filled with challenges such as mental illness; not to mention most faith communities don’t want to get political.  

As for the second comment, there is a half-truth there.  While I don’t think it is the intention of the government to enable the poor, I think the systems in place are broken.  The system is created to keep hard working people trapped in oppressive and demoralizing ways. 

For example, while working at Children’s Special Services I was helping a woman get her son recertified in the program, which is based on income.  She was a hard-working single mom who worked full time at Wal-Mart.  I’ll never forget the look on her face when I had to tell her she no longer qualified for the program because her .10-cent per hour raise put her above the income threshold.  Her raise gave her $19.20 more per month  (before taxes) and had to let go of hundreds of dollars in health benefits for her son.  When she asked her employer if she could forego the raise, they said no.  

We are all slaves to a system.  There are waves of moments when I embrace a radical conspiracy theory where the 1% desires a world where people are slave to the fear in which they live.  Where young people who have been told over and over that education is the most important and so they take out tens of thousands of dollars in student loans to become a school teacher making $30K a year and they become slave to their debt; where individuals waive their annual doctors appointment out of fear they will be diagnosed with a horrible disease in which they cannot pay for and will inevitably be dropped from their health insurance, or worse, a mother and father, who have conservatively saved their entire lives, who have done everything right are both diagnosed with cancer and lose everything to pay for their cure – their job, their savings,  their house.  I imagine violent video games being a training ground where children learn to disconnect from their thoughts, feelings and reality while killing their opponent in a world where we now have drones thousands of miles away that can drop bombs wherever we wish – not really knowing who they are or whose they are, and not having to look them in the eye because now you only have to push a button on a screen.  

Every so often, this is the conspiracy theory I believe has been planned for us – a fleeting thought that moves through my head. That we are just puppets on a string – with just enough freedom to keep us happy, with just enough flavors of ice cream to keep us quiet, with just enough debt that we cannot risk saying or doing anything as we may lose our job, with just enough to do to make us so exhausted by the end of the day that we lack the strength to muster up the energy to do anything else.  And so we go back to watching our reality TV, concerned more for a baby that will grow up with a name North West than those living on the edges of humanity, hanging our baskets of flowers on the front porch, handing out food to the poor on Saturday, and worshiping on Sunday.  God bless America!